Most of you know, if you’ve been following my blogs, that we lost my husband’s father recently. If anything forces you to stay in the now, it’s this kind of loss. Everything stands still as you take stock after the shock, even before the arrangements, etc. there is this sense of being suspended in time. For me, as I have lost both my parents and now my second dad, I know it’s a precious moment that is filled with gratitude and heartbreaking love, breaking open to appreciation and reverence for all life and for the Spirit that is inherent in all things. You don’t have to lose anything to find that spot, you can enter it through mindfulness meditation and then by choosing to be aware and awake to both inner and outer conditions.
I heard someone on the radio in an interview saying that we’ve ushered in the Age of Anxiety and I know that is true so it’s even more important to gently discipline ourselves to remain in the moment and in 24 hours. I think the mind is like an unruly puppy some days that needs some gentle and loving house training.
This is not in any way some new age balderdash of bypassing what is important. Nothing pisses me off more than the snake oil of “happy joyous and free all day every day all the time.” Some days life takes work and it hurts like hell and we have to show up for it as best we can, and yes, also do your part in co-creating and attracting the miracles…That is true too. All of it this and that is true, not just the good stuff.
Our presence, our attention, gets distracted when we’re too anxious and always seeing everyone and everything as a potential threat or “other.” This takes work and effort and no, we might not get it right every time, but at least we can try and commit to it one day at a time. I am still touched by how my father-in-law was so committed to meeting in the middle.
New beginnings are possible each day. It’s up to us how we will handle such a precious gift.
For today, I wish you a beautiful 24 hours, remember not to take the world too personally, and even if the shadows beckon, only good will come of it if you can learn to see the blessings. Gather your people and tell them you love them. Love is precious!!!
I know you could be reading anyone’s blogs, thank you for being here for mine. All my love and affection!
WEEKLY ORACLE CARD READING
Dear Colette,
I just wanted to thank you for your inspiring blogs and weekly oracle readings.
You bring do much positivity and help to all who read and watch your videos.
Love,
Susan x
Thank you, Susan! ❤️
so so true been there and you never ever get over it its with you every day thanks len
So sorry for the loss of your beloved second father….sending healing, love, light and prayers…💙🙏😇
big hug Lynne
Dear Collette,
Your readings are so spot on and guide in a positive way. You bless your followers and the world with your beautiful energy!
I look forward to your readings each week and appreciate the format you are using with the cards and your precious puppy breaks 🙂
In light and love, Pamela
thanx Pamela
Dear Colette,
Your description of how you felt when your father-in-law transitioned, was exactly how I felt when mine did, too. Like time was suddenly standing still, and why was everything still going on as normal around me? It was an incredibly present moment experience that I’ll never forget. Sending soothing wishes to you and your husband, and as much serenity as possible during this life-changing time for the both of you. And thank you for everything you share and do for others.
thank you Jan big hug
Sending Love and hugs to you and your husband Colette 💖 Thankyou for your teachings and for allowing us into your life 💖 many Blessings to you 💖💖💖
Thank you Colette 😊👍🏼
Thank you for your blog. You really reminded me to relax my anxiety and remember love. Sending out positive viberations to your mind and soul Ms. Have a beautiful Abundant day.
Thank you for this loving reminder.I am so sorry for your guys’ loss. I’m sending loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family, I love you!
My condolences to you and yours I know what it’s like when your world is falling apart around you as well as the pain as i just became widowed July 5th of this year. Just know that he is resting in gods hands and is taken care of. I too suffer from anxiety myself and have for years but through prayers and strength god will see you through this lady. Take care I’m here if you need anything. God bless
Thank you for your comment, Adrienne. Big hugs to you!
My condolences to you and yours. I know what it’s like. I lose my father when i had 15 years old ( Is like i died with with him).
You are a strong, wonderful women.
Beatiful soul I wanted to thank you for your inspiring, your light and love for your lessons…
You bring so much energy and positivity and help all who read and watch your videos.Bealive, You save lives
🙏♥️🌹
I understand where you are. My mom passed yesterday. She was the last of the parents on both sides. I am lost. Thanks for reminding me to be present, however life is. My deep condolences to you and your husband.
Big hugs and condolences to you, Honey Bee. 💜💜💜
My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family . The body is laid to rest his spirit lives on . I’m sure you know you’ll still feel his presence at times when his spirit is near . Continue to encourage others and walk in your blessings.
Ohmygosh, did this ever hit home, Colette! My father in law was suddenly put in hospice this last month and is at the end of his life. It has been so hard to maintain positive vibes while at the same time having to watch the suffering of my 2nd dad and my husband through this process of closing this life’s chapter. But I’ve been hearing inner wisdoms call to slow down, stop judging myself, savor each moment, love feverishly, trust the universe and let go and the biggest takeaway has been to accept both darkness and light – something I truly love about you Collette is your refreshing approach to the duality of life. So much of “New Age” thought is wrapped in denial of our messy, gloomy, tear stained moments and that causes us so much resistance to the moments when we most need to stay open to receiving the beauty of life. Mindfulness, whether in sunlight or total darkness, allows us to be receptive to the grace that’s waiting to hold our hand and guide us through the unknown. I am glad that you have found similar and truly appreciate your desire to share your light with others even during your darkest hours. Always an inspiration, my condolences to you and your beloved family. ❤
I love what you wrote – grace can come in sunlight or in total darkness thanx Alyssa
My sincere condolences to you and your husband. I am sorry for your loss, sending you much love and hugs, Freda
I lost my 51 yr old brother on Aug 20th. In the early morning hours on the day of his funeral, Aug 29th, my father passed. When you talk about being suspended in time, that resonated with me. How has it already been a month since these tragedies?! Sending you peaceful thoughts and camaraderie in you and your husband’s grief journey. 💕
Deborah, as I was scrolling to post a comment, I came upon yours and it brought tears to my eyes and if only for a moment I felt your immense pain. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and strength. So much love xx
This is another helpful reminder for dealing with loss. I recently told my daughter that grief is the other side of love. Your message helps change the perspective in grief. Recognizing that loss is part and parcel of this life can sometimes lessen the devastation, though it doesn’t make us miss our loved ones any less. I will take this with me on my day’s journey and do my best to honor the lesson. I am truly sorry for you and your husband. Thank you for sharing with us.
I’m sorry for your loss I have had a few myself but as you say we must be present in our lives for all of what comes our way maybe it could be its happening for us not to us many lessons but we must shine our light and embrace our best life always many prayers the families 🙏💐❤
my condolences to all. we lost my husband’s grandmother last Wednesday. she was precious to us. Thank you for your blog, ’cause it helps.
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Dear Colette,
My heartfelt condolences to you and your husband during this time of sorrow. May the soul of your father-in-law rest in peace!
Wishing you peace and strength!
Mihaela 🙏💐❤️
Colette, Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and heart, in the midst of coping with such a loss (change) and life-altering event. Your statement about your sense of “being suspended in time” stopped me in my tracks…I just exhaled. My heart goes out to you and Marc. Sending you love and peaceful thoughts <3
Sweet Colette
Please accept my sincere condolences. I’m so thankful for you and your wonderful gift you so willingly share with all of us. I try to be a person, stay positive and encourage others. I have my days like everyone but I’m learning it’s important and there’s also a message in it for me to stay kind etc. I’m in my 60s and still wonder about life and so many other things but sometimes we aren’t meant to know. Again thank you for your beautiful spirit and spreading so
Much peace, love and happiness
Love peace and blessings to you 💜🌿🙏
I am so sorry for yours and Marc’s loss, Colette. I can understand what you must be going through, as having lost 2 mothers.
God bless you both. Much love and light,
Jackie Roos
Thank you Colette, I lost my father a year ago, and I really appreciate how you put into words the shock, and heartbreaking love that accompanies it. I’m so sorry for yours and your husband’s loss.
Colette, blessings to you and your husband on the passing of his father. Thank you for showing up for us even in your time of sorrow. I always appreciate that you share your real life with us and let it serve as inspiration.
Oh thank you for this. I so look forward to your weekly reading and added them to my journal notes to review during the week. I BELIEVE everything is divinely guide just as is your post today. Be in the moment as you have said. Lost our 25 year old son April 13 and daily hearing his voice ‘to be in the moment’ as this is all we have. Thank you and sending you peace and love.
Thank you, Denise. Big hugs to you 💜
You rock Colette. Your readings have guided me into my purpose, honing my gifts. I am deeply attracted to healing arts and oracle readings are the best for words have power,your words have power for they reflect our most innherent qualities that give life. Its beautiful. Lots of love. You rock!
Colette dear heart ,
Your writing so beautiful as your words move seamlessly , evoking a stream of a deep array of emotions . A beacon of light on our planet . A gift to read your blog . Only a well of love & joy shared feels such loss . You’re forever connected in Source .
With my love & gratitude ,
Nadine – Ty …
xox
Thank you Colette for giving us a reality check. We are here in this lifetime to experience our souls life lessons. We are here to love our happy times and learn from our challenges but that is so easy to say when we are having a good day. Sometimes we feel so bad, even the good times are forgotten. But watching your blogs and weekly oracle readings truly does help remind me that with time, even bad times fade away and the good times are appreciated more.
Colette, My heart is out to both you and your husband’s family. I can really connect to being in the middle of situations and this balances things out. I love your weekly blogs and readings. I always look forward to Monday a new wonderful week and watching you and your lovely dogs.
Blessings and Love,
Theresa
Thank you, CBR…your example of how you experience “life on life’s terms” while at the same time rooted in a knowing of your connection to a higher power that guides you at these times… I am able to witness a trust that even through the proverbial sh** there is support in the invisible and you’ve got this! Wow! Thank you for graciously sharing your example, wisdom and candor. Hugs to you and your family. Felicia
My sincere condolences to you, Mark and your families. Good thoughts be with you all. Thank You for sharing you light in words and inspiration.
Love and Gratitude always,
joh
Dear Colette,
You have inspired me for years, and as always your words of wisdom come at the perfect time.
It is amazing how much attention the passing of a love one, grabs our attention, and how we embrace every wonderful characteristic of the person. When in daily life we so often look at the ‘other’ side of a dear love one!
Life is not always easy, and at times like this we cherish every moment we had with the other no matter what their mood or feeling.
Know you are loved, and you have precious memories to hold on to and you will always be connected.
THANK YOU for the Work you DO,
Love,
Ronney Aden
My precious husband died on 2/27/19 and I SO understand all you wrote. I send my prayers and many blessings to you, Marc, and the entire family during this time. Having you as a mentor for many years has helped me weather all of the emotions. Most days are good but the sadness can sometimes hit out of the blue. When it does, and it’s less often over time, I sit with my feelings and generally find myself praying, meditating, and thanking Mother-Father God for the 52 years I had with my wonderful husband. I prefer to not dwell on sadness but on gratitude. Accepting the feelings rather attempting to ignore them makes me stronger – and more grateful. I am not a Pollyanna, by any means, however, it is possible to still be joyful even when grieving. I continue to learn as I go. The “new normal” DOES occur. Blessings to you, Dear Lady, for your wisdom and insight.
My heart is with you and your husband Colette. I lost my parents at a young age. Your words describe my experience well. It’s a very “otherworldly” time. I will be thinking of you and sending hugs.
sending much love and bigg huggs…….
L
My condolences Colette to you and Marc. I always have known that the spirit lives on, with that being said, it can be hard when a person you love passes. My brother who is only 69, was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer – one that is not common and he has been getting worse in the last two weeks. I have many days I cry and the only practice that keeps me sane is meditating and prayer, knowing all is perfect in the universe and he will leave his physical body, when he chooses to. Sending so much love and with gratitude for the light and love you are ~
Dear Colette;
As always I look forward to reading your blogs and responding to the best of my ability. It is mind-boggling how many examples of absent-mindedness that have caused tragedies that so easily could have been avoided. One case in particular, a father in the Bronx who drove his 11 month twins to the hospital where he worked as a social worker; but in a moment of “absent-mindedness” believed that he had already dropped them off “before” he went in for his shift that day. As a result they died of extreme heat exposure. I found this so difficult to believe that someone could be so casual without confirming before he closed the doors to his vehicle.
So many accidents occur in one moment that are so heart-wrenching and have irreversible consequences that can never be changed. It took me being knocked to the ground by a vehicle making an unsafe right turn. But for the grace of ” Spirit ” the injuries were healed in time. When you experience something so raw, and unexpected, it is quite traumatic, and leaves an imprint which makes one very mindful about the brevity, and fragility of a human life. When people are so careless, and distracted they can cause damage that could require months, and years to rebuild. Or it could end a life in an instant. Forever.
One moment in time is all it takes to look around, to appreciate what is in front of our eyes. I shall not pass this way again. ” Hurrying and hurrying brings no blessings” Haraka, Haraka, Haina Baraka” African Proverb
Almost everyday I hear of another cyclist/pedestrian killed in a traffic collision. Or someone pulls the trigger, and tragically ends a life. That someone could be a son, daughter, wife/ loved one. What will it take to wake us up? Why does it always take tragedy to remind us that we are ” granted ” this day. It is a gift, and holds as many blessings as we are able to notice and appreciate. Reverence, humility and equanimity. We all lose when a life is taken by the ” creator ” or by a
careless act due to negligence whether intentional or not. I rest my case.
That was helpful. And. Beautiful
You. Readings. Are. Very. True
Love. Normajeane.
From. U K
I love your video format with the six cards and pick your own number. I also follow the astrology with the sun, ascendant, Moon, and progressed Moon. I had to laugh because my moon and my progressed moon are both in Libra. Today I felt really tired from work and I just wanted to sleep all day. I ended up telling my husband I was taking a nap in the afternoon when honestly I hadn’t even gotten out of bed, LOL! So I had to laugh when I watched the video and Libra showed time for a nap! You just can’t make this stuff up 🙂. I’m also in Oracle School and loving it! Many blessings to you and yours. I’m sorry for your loss of your Father-in-Law☹️🙏
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father-in-law. I love how you spoke of him as your second Dad. My deepest sympathy to you and Mark. It will be 2 years this Saturday that I lost my Dad and I remember fully all the emotions. I’m sure some will revisit me and I intend to embrace them. Love is truly precious…
love is truly precious yes !! xoxoxo
I’m so sorry for your loss! My dad passed in February of this year and it’s been, and still is, a very tough journey. Will send you love and comforting energy.
sorry for you loss Bonnie
Thank you as always for sharing your heart – in this blog more than ever. It touched me so very much. Losses just sap and zap me – and I know the gift is there, for I suppose grief is an indication of deep love. Thank you – this is so very supportive – it helps to know we are all in this joy and brokenness together.
sap and zap ! so true!
Hugs of love and comfort to you, Colette, and your family; and also to all of those whose stories I read above. May you all find the strength needed to make it through these difficult times, and be able to help those around you. Love and Kisses.
thank you Reina
Thank You for being Real!!
Loss is always the hardest to work through.
Each of us has our own unique way of coping
with seeing our loved ones pass through time.
No matter how old we get or how many endings
we witness a piece of our heart goes with them.
I am glad you were shown LOVE by your Dad -in-Law.
May the Holy Spirit continue to comfort you and your loved ones.
sending you so much love xoxoxo
Dear Colette, As you move forward through this sad time, please feel the love, light & caring we send your way. God bless you and yours. 🙏
I do!!
Thank you Collette,
I love your blogs, you keep it real, which always helps to remind me we are all just on journey, discovering ourselves.
Dear Colette and Marc, my condolences to both of you with your loss. Never easy to lose someone you love. He is somewhere beautiful now and smiling on both of you. Big hug from me.
thanx Vera
Colette,
My deepest condolences to you and your husband. What a time to be still in. It always seems like the world is moving so fast after such a loss. And yet, it’s hard to stay present in the now. We do almost anything to escape that surreal pain. Last year, my best friend lost her son. I lost my daughter Christmas of 99′. Some losses define you. A child is one of those.
Thank you for sharing your heart and guiding so many to their authentic selves. It’s a blessing to be connected to you in any way. You are such a gift.
sending you so so much love thank you for sharing Ranae
Very true, in 3 weeks time it will be a year since I lost my 25yo daughter, Some days are harder than others and it can be hard being happy for other people when they are celebrating but I know she is still here and I’m trying hard to do everything I’ve ever wanted to do and not waste time and know she would want that. Life is precious so you need to make the most of it.
this is a tough one a mother should never lose their child. Sending you so much love
Dearest Collette, my condolences on the loss of your father in law. And I want to say thank you for your incredible blog, I always enjoy your perspective and writing style. Also your crystal cards lead me deeper into my psyche, how is that possible? I’d like to do OracLe school next time around. You are such a gift. Xoxo
Thank you for your kind words, Tara. I hope to see you in Oracle School next year! ❤️
Funny how I am guided to see just what I need, just at the right time. No matter how many times I am in it, or see others in it. My built in forgetter, then has me telling me that I am ALONE. That there is somehow something wrong about how i feel and how i cope. The ruminating and the going back that I can do in that moment, my go to, automatic , in my nature method of coping ALWAYS keeps me out of now–and yet, sigh. I thank all of you for sharing your experience and hope with the letting go and the grieving. I so appreciate you for better describing to me, my feelings. Gratitude! Joyful thanking for sharing and for being a part of. Thanks very much for sharing!
I’m sorry for your loss, Colette …much love and healing to Marc and you, and to everyone he left behind
Love your authenticity ❤️🙏❤️ Sending you love and healing 💞💞💞
Dear Colette, Marc, friends and family my sympathies on your loss. Sending you all Love and Light in this trying time.
Collette I’ve only just read this (10/01/20) on a day that holds a mother of all eclipses! I really needed to hear what you said especially the message about not taking the world personally. So thank you – as always you bring light when it is needed 💗💫