Hope Not Hate – What the Dead (and Fred) Can Teach Us About Living
“Everybody dies but not everybody lives.” is an anonymous meme that showed up online this morning when I prayed about what this week’s blog should be about.
Lots of memes to choose from but this one was special because when I looked for it again it was gone. So I took it as a nudge from Spirit to grab my computer and riff.
I’ve had the privilege of being exposed to the most extraordinary mentors in the past few years to show me what living is really about. Most of them dead, and then of course there’s Fred! ( my chorus of angels that hum ideas to me about goodness and grace, gratitude, love, and goofiness, and for those of you who follow my Uncharted book club, Fred have recently revealed themselves to be the very same group of angels I met some 30 years ago. And, it’s amazing they haven’t aged a bit!)
In fact I think to be honest I have learned more about how to live well, how to love, and how to serve from the invisible realms and the dead than I ever have from the seen and living.
Through the hundreds of mediumship readings that I have been gifted to provide I have never seen nor experienced such a conscious and clear sense of forgiveness and accountability, love, and generosity, anywhere else in my life.
The ones that have struck me the deepest are varied but all have the same core message about living.
The messages have come from those who in life refused to love or accept their gay sons and daughters, and now come for the sole purpose of asking for forgiveness and to show them the love, respect and care they couldn’t do in life because of their beliefs and consequent choices.
They come from rapists and molesters who connect to repair the damage they did with clear hope that the person could be released from their deep emotional scars. They come from husbands and fathers who didn’t know how to show affection and only want to bring the love they didn’t know how to show in life.
They come from mothers and daughters, suicides and early deaths that froze the living now unable to move on like dragonflies in amber. They come to say good bye and to try to show us how to live to give us the key to the prisons of our own making.
They all want to release the living from hate, from fear, from shame, from the damage of seeing the world through the lens of separation. Not one person on the other side said stay in the family feud, or keep being angry, or stay hating.
They all say we are accountable for how we think, how we act and what we do. ( kinda like karma). They have all said we can choose to course correct and choose Love – now before we die because that is what we learn when we get there anyway.
I gotta be honest. It’s that simple. Love or nothing. Whatever that means- self love, tough love, universal love, unconditional love, compassion, kindness, authenticity and a way out of hatred and fear.
I’m going to invite you to play a game with me this week and tell me how you do as you go along. It’s an easy one but it takes committing to one day – 24 hours of complete focus. Then compare that day with how you do when you don’t add this to the mix. You will surely find some stark differences.
The Love Game
Anytime you have to make a decision ask “ What would Love do?”
Anytime you need to course correct after reacting in a way that made you feel bad ( even if your mind says you were righteous) ask “ What would Love do?”
Anytime you want to text something nasty to someone who appear to be on the “wrong side” of choice. “ What would Love do?”
If Love is what makes you march- march, if Love makes you want to wait- sit this one out, if Love calls for forgiveness and understanding- give it a try. Love will be simple, and Love wants to be shared.
So do that.
That is after all what I stand for. (since so many of you have been asking of late) Do No Harm- Love, Unity, Compassion, Care, Understanding, and Hope and Freedom. I choose these things because I would never consciously choose hate, fear, bigotry, rage, repression, sexism, or racism (and, I’m sure there are more than these but that’s all I can come up with at this moment).
Love wouldn’t have either!
So yes, everybody dies, and not everybody lives, but you and I, we know the way home.
Love you always and forever!