I’ve just put down Nancy Levin’s new book Worthy and it has hit home in so many ways. Although the book focuses on the relationship between self worth and net worth, she’s not just talking about money although a lot of the story uses money as the template for how our sense of worthiness is reflected in our relationship with our finances and how that affects the rest of our lives. If you haven’t read it yet be prepared for some serious deep inquiry. Thank goodness she offers a free online coaching program as a bonus gift.
I am loving it so far. There is always more to learn.
The journey towards worthy is inward and it requires us to take our blinders off and look at ourselves compassionately but ruthlessly. When I consider my own life and most of my clients current and past, this word resonates with the invisible obstacles that seem to trip all of us up in so many areas of life- net worth comprising of a whole life view of how we love, our family relationships, workplace dynamics, and yes how we view our finances (in this case especially women).
I see the results of long term spiritual commitment to growth and so I am worthy today in most areas of my life but definitely still working on others. Does the unworthy pea under the princess bed keeps you up at night sometimes too?
Worthy is not the same as entitled or even deserving. It’s deeper and its fundamental and many of us don’t even realize how we have been trained by society, by religion, by anything that has led us to believe we are fundamentally flawed and unworthy.
- Do you ever feel like if you shine your light you might get punished?
- Do you people please rather than state your needs?
- Do you feel like you can’t charge a decent fee for your work?
- Do you feel a cringe when you see others succeed anxious that they are taking what should be yours?
- Do you expect that life will always be hard?
- Do you quickly shove all this under the carpet in your mind pretending to yourself that you just didn’t feel that?
I’ve had issues with worthy in my relationships, my art, and if I’m going to really tell you the truth its only recently where I feel I’ve landed in my skin.
30 years ago when I was newly sober I had no sense of self worth when it came to men. I didn’t know it at the time, for I only knew how to choose complicated men with addiction issues that were abusive and controlling. I saw myself as a victim and believed if I could just prove myself they would change and I would be lovable.
The same sense of unworthiness showed up in my music career to the point that I lost the love of my art for chasing approval from the business.
Same with my TV show. Having one changed nothing to be honest.
You see you cannot look to anything or anyone outside of yourself to make you worthy. You have to claim your inner worthy inside before the outside will reflect it.
The only person that needs to approve of you is you.
Your world is your worthy mirror.
What does your mirror show you about being worthy?
I recently added 4 team members to my business. I realized a big part of why I didn’t do this sooner is that I have felt that I must do everything myself with the two people (Marc and Jill) who were already overloaded. Outside of being controlling this piece was telling me deep down I wasn’t worthy of help, or an organized successful life!
Until I looked at what Nancy is teaching it never occurred to me. I say YES to worthy and a continuous gentle overhaul of my inner worthy belief system. You?
Hmmm! Good news is that can change!
And, we can help each other and model worthiness by setting healthy boundaries, knowing what is true for us, cleaning up our finances, stop trying to make people love us. Know that we are made by Spirit, infused by Spirit that lives within us, inherently blessed, inherently worthy and our behavior needs to reflect that truth.
And here we all are, me super grateful for every pair of eyes that follows my blog, and all of us holding hands stumbling towards miracles. YAY!
Tell me how worthy or unworthy has shaped and now shapes your life!
Love you guys!
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