Dear Colette,
After having consistent disappointments in dating I decided to have a reading with a reputable and accurate intuitive so I could get some relationship ”nuggets” which would give me something to look forward to. Since my reading, I actually feel worse.
I was told that “the one” will not come along for another 3 years. Before then, I will date someone exclusively late this fall, but eventually he will end it.
Three years feels like an eternity and I have lost interest in dating until September because I don’t see the point of wasting my evening with someone who I will only see a few times. And what is supposed to be great news late this year ends in heartbreak so that relationship is not enticing either. I want to hibernate and not come out until 2016.
I have lost my joy and excitement for the future. I am sorry I ever got that reading. Please help. – Reading Regret
Dear Reading Regret,
Please do not to give your power away to a reading, no matter what. Assume the storyline may be correct, but the time frame may be completely inaccurate. An intuitive is looking at a potential reality, based on a particular vantage point.
Always remember, if you don’t like something in a reading, you can change it. Instead of being in that open, willing, curious position where you welcome in a relationship, the minute you impose the limitation of time on something you set yourself for a lot of trouble. There’s an expectation that prevents you from manifesting what you want, which is always in flux and fluid. When you connect to the pure potential within the quantum field, you do that from a position of having any release of attachment.
As an intuitive that has done this for 23 years, I know, and I tell my clients, that timing is the least accurate element. So my question to you is this, what’s the real issue here? Is it that you want to control the output of your desire? Is it a disappointment because somebody told you that you had to wait, or is it a disappointment because somebody told you that your desire will not be met in the time frame you have picked for yourself?
When we surrender to our highest good, we must surrender everything, including the time in which something takes to create itself in our world.
The best advice I have for you is to act as if that person is right around the corner or in your life today. Act as if you trust with all your heart and soul and have absolute faith there is a perfect partner for you; that the Universe will present that partner for you in divine, appropriate timing because it is perfect.
Let’s just play the devil’s advocate – you may need three years of life experience to find the perfect person. I had a relationship with somebody that didn’t last, but it was the best thing I ever did, because it prepared me for my husband.
What if the person you’re supposed to meet is the friend of the person you may date but not end up with?
So, before you deny or take away the possibility of your future story, just say, “whatever is in my heart is good and will be, and I reject anything that may harm me, and we’ll see.”
Love and blessings,
Colette Baron-Reid
Intuitive Counselor
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19 comments
Tia Johnson - March 14, 2013 12:51 pm
I love the insight you provide, Colette! I wholeheartedly agree with time being the least accurate. It can be frustrating, but divine timing is divine timing! I also like that you mentioned the three years needed for life experience. So true. Especially from an astrology standpoint when Saturn pays us a visit and we have a lesson to learn! Blessings to you, Colette.
Debra - March 27, 2013 1:46 pm
I can’t believe the timing of your response! I had a reading nearly 2 years ago and I was told that I would be writing books that would be published but I was told I had to start NOW. You guessed it! I didn’t start until a few months ago and I’ve been plagued with concern that I missed my opportunity.
Your message really helped me to realize that the message can be correct but the timing is not as important.
Thank you!
SAMIA - March 14, 2013 1:07 pm
Dear Colette,
I frequently pick cards from your online deck and John Holland’s psychic tarot card deck. There is one card that frightens me and that is the DISRUPTION card. Every time I pick that card, I go into worry and panic, almost waiting for something to go wrong. Also I think that anything good that is happening is ‘too good to be true’ and blame myself for the disruption. Sometimes when something good is happening, I incessantly pick cards to make sure that it is actually good, until, when I get the DISRUPTION card I re-affirm to myself, that yes, I knew it!..couldn’t last! I am actually afraid of picking that card in the deck, instead of listening to what it is telling me. And then I get confused why for the same question I get both a great and ominous reading. Could you please give me more insight into this particular card.
Thank You and God Bless
Samia
Colette Baron-Reid - March 15, 2013 6:30 am
never be frightened by cards Disruption represents the essence of change and is not a negative sign at all. If YOu get this card or any other card that represents a challenge, choose another for more clarity!
Meg - March 14, 2013 2:19 pm
Dear Colette,
You are so right on that we need to have faith that all comes to us in the time it is ment to be. Timing that one receives in a reading may or maynot be accurate, but should not hold us back from living in the present.
Remember when one door closes another always opens! Keep positive and manifesting those positive things you desire! Be grateful for all that happens as it leads you to what is to be.
Blessings,
Meg
Caroline Frenette Master Intuitive Coach - March 14, 2013 10:12 pm
Looks like Mademoiselle Regret needs to get her own power back and do some intuitive coaching. Creating the life you love (and a wonderful loving relationship) is possible when you are willing to explore what part you are playing in all of this…
Nic - March 15, 2013 12:44 pm
They were my first thoughts
<3
This is the time needed to work on yourself.
You can attract the same energy you are putting out
Heather - April 6, 2013 1:04 am
Indeed. Dr. Wayne Dyer says that infinite patience brings immediate results, and he’s right. I got readings like the one above, once.
I turned from them and instead focused on the Law of Attraction. I wrote down the qualities I wanted in my next boyfriend.
Quite unexpectedly, I met my soulmate. And the reading had told me I’d never meet such a person in this lifetime. Boyfriend begs to differ, lol!
Colette Baron-Reid - April 6, 2013 7:37 am
I was told the same – husband also begs to differ
thanx for sharing
love
Colette
Kim Rossignol - March 15, 2013 9:57 am
The one thing I tell anyone right from the start in my readings is that the time is the most variable part of the reading and I explain how time frames and personal choices and doing the steps absolutely can alter any time potentials. I believe any intuitive reader has a responsibility to explain how that future time frame is really only up to one person: the one being read. Beautiful share Colette, and delivered with inspiration and positive, loving thoughts.
Ronni - March 16, 2013 10:36 am
Yes! Good post! I have found the best guidance has been my own and what I receive. But I have had many times that the one big thing that was off was the timing. “Soon” could mean a month to a year…and I have had yelling fits with my Guides, so I no longer ask for dates.
But I definitely agree in some cases, we can make things happen quicker. But for me, I hate the surrender thing. Probably because it meant in my mind doing nothing, but I see it different now. More of a time for being clearer on what I really want and then trusting I’m being helped getting there. BTW, love the daily pick.
Michael Vancouver - March 16, 2013 6:42 pm
Dear Fabulous and always wise Goddess Colette
I am responding to your kind and compassionate reply, Psychic Reading regret.
I want to say thank you for your words and wisdom, as a working professional Intuitive, who has now put down the cards for a while. Your words have great meaning to all who love to serve with their intuitive gifts and all who seek wisdom from this type of blessed service.
Your a brilliant and generous wise teacher. I received much from the persons honesty and your gracious reply. Thank you thank you thank you…
Stay fabulous
Much gratitude and big west coast hugs
Michael xxxoo
Angel - March 21, 2013 6:54 am
Colette,
Wonderful post! Time frames can change all the time and we should not live our lives based on the timings given in a reading, everything truly happens for a reason and as you have said, it is all life experience – failed relationships, heartbreaks, they all give us the experience and make us who we are.
Thanks,
Angel
Jeniren - March 24, 2013 11:08 pm
I am very interested in the comment about timing, and would love to know more. I connect to people’s past lives via healing and dowsing with a pendulum. I seem to get very definite answers to questions, but discovering that I have been ‘told’ by dowsing that the previous past life ended two years after (I later discover) the person was born into this lifetime can be rather confusing and demoralizing!!
Jill - March 27, 2013 3:26 pm
I had a reading with someone over skype and she told me that I will never make it in my chosen career field. How much power do we have to shape our reality and how can we not give our power away to a reading?
Colette Baron-Reid - April 1, 2013 9:59 am
Now will you believe that? NO! you are the captain of your own ship and destiny – Ask- Believe- Receive! Don’t let that negative thought take root.
Heather - April 6, 2013 1:06 am
86 that thinking NOW. Colette is right. YOU decide. Your career is yours, and don’t let anyone on Skype or anywhere else tell you differently. I was told I would never return to Los Angeles and I would never be wealthy. Wrong on both counts
Lisa Smith - April 6, 2013 6:49 am
When doing readings,I find that when people ask me questions such as “Is he cheating on me?” or “Will he come back,” I do not know the answers, because I use an Oracle deck that say things like “Sacrifice” and “Awareness.”
I honestly believe it is because I think the better questions would be insight questions such as “What do I need to know about the relationship?”
So, my question is what do I do when people ask for Yes or NO questions when I don’t feel comfortable answering them? Should I just learn how to do Yes and No card readings? Or do I say that I don’t feel comfortable answering those types f questions.
Colette Baron-Reid - April 6, 2013 7:35 am
I stay away from yes /no questions altogether. The role of oracle is to give insight and deeper meaning, The issues of Sacrifice, and Awareness reflect the experience which is the truer reading.
thanx for writing hope that helped
love
Colette