Have you ever dreaded seeing old classmates, childhood friends or the much-more-successful relatives? No matter how hard we try not to compare ourselves to others or make judgments to make ourselves feel better, somehow we find ourselves in what I call, “reunion avoidance.”
Recently I went back to my childhood surroundings of Toronto, Canada for a book signing. It would have been easy to think about some of my childhood friends’ lives and believe the grass was greener – or easier than my own. What could have easily been an anxious experience turned out to be the best self-awareness lesson I’ve had in a long time. When you go back to where you began you start to realize how far you’ve come.
It wasn’t about seeing myself better than anyone else. More importantly, I saw how far I’d come – by simply looking at where I started, the road I traveled and the progress I had made in so many areas of my life.
So often we get too focused on moving forward to a destination and we create this arrival date of success. We compare ourselves to the success of others when what really matters is comparing ourselves to who we were yesterday.
Have you had a similar “reunion avoidance” episode that turned out to be a wonderful experience? When was the last time you took stock in how far you’ve come? I’d love to have you share your story with our community, please use the comments section – we can all use a bit of inspiration!
Love and blessings,
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